L'AMOUR


Bismillah. Assalamualaikum..

Love is subjective. It can be love between two people, love toward our parents, love toward the Prophet, love toward Allah S.W.T etc. But the most majestic love would be the love toward Allah. That is our first priority as a Muslim. Amar ma'ruf nahi mungkar. Everybody wants to love and be loved. We can't deny that. That is human nature (fitrah). We will get at some points when we look at those sweet couples passed by we would think about wanna get married quickly. But girls, marriage is not going to be sweet all the times. A lot of tests that you have to endure along the way. Patience and prays are the keys to have a successful and blessful marriage. Sembang macam dah kahwin ajerrr. haha. I know it's hard to lower our gaze especially when a handsome man resembles Zayn Malik or Liam Payne passed by in front of us. Rezeki ni. Just look at them once sudahlah don't look ever and over again sampai tahi lalat pun hafal dekat mana. It's so embarassing lah to stare at someone without even blinking. haha. Malu itu adalah perhiasan wanita.



Everyone has their own definition or perspective of love. That's why sometimes when we see some married couples, the husbands just look moderate but the wives look debomm like Che Ta. haha. Some people being so prejudice by loving or falling in love with someone merely due to their distinctive faces or appearance. I do admit that appearance might be the reason why we fall in love with someone but somehow their personality and attitudes are also the important things that you need to take into account. Appearance is just temporary but attitudes are long lasting. When you become old and have a wrinkled face with grey hair, your beauty that you adored will fade away.  As a Muslim the first thing that we have to look at someone is the deen (Islam). Because when someone is devoted with his/her deen Inshaa Allah we can achieve our goal which is 'live together till jannah'. Beauty and wealth is just a bonus. Analogically, it's like you eating cheesy wedges and sometimes when you are lucky enough, you will get 'more cheese'. Not really a suitable analogy I guess. haha.




For the girls including myself, don't put so much effort to be perfect for someone that we don't even know whether he's going to be our 'halal' one. Love is not about putting on makeups to always look pretty on his eyes or spend lots of money on expensive clothes in order to attract his attention. Love is when you have seen the strength and weakness of him and you willingly to accept that and you never take him for granted. For the time being, you just need to focus on the things that you want to achieve first. Get a good pointer in every examination, graduate with a first class honor, make your parents proud, get a good job, save some money then find your perfect match and get married. Because at that time you already independent and matured enough to take a responsibility as a wife/husband.

I'm quite disagree when people said that long distance relationship is not going to work. For me this kind of people define love like 'pergi jalan jalan together every weekend' or 'hari hari jumpa untuk pergi makan eskrem'. Love is about being loyal too. If he/she is going to be your match made in heaven, though both of you have been separated by distance, when it's time for the souls to meet, there's nothing on Earth that can prevent you from being together. Allah had written who is your soulmate 50000 years before the creation of the universe, just be patient and pray for the right one. Remember the story of prophet Adam A.S and his wife Hawa? They have been derived separately for I don't know the exact periods but some said maybe 300 years or 400 years or 40 years or 40 days, and at the end they met at Jabal Rahmah, Arafah. True love will find their way back;) Stop changing partners and stick to one. Let's be a solehah woman yang Inshaa Allah bakal dicemburui bidadari syurga. Kita boleh berubah perlahan lahan. For the kids that have a boyfriends/girlfriends please repent and consider the consequences that it would make towards your heart your study and your future:)


Okay that's all. May Allah bless us all:)

p/s: I'm not writing about the story of Hasan al-Basri as I'd promised before because I don't know how much of the story was true. For the time being I keep it as draft first.

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